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Create your Life

What determines how much success we will get? Is it that some people are just lucky or have the perfect childhood? I don’t think so.

What is there that makes some people really joy full and happy while others are depressed? What determinate your relationships with other people?

I bet you really want to know. Well I’m not going to cover all this in detail right now, but what I will give you is a much clearer picture on what it is that makes your reality the way it is for good or bad.

I have chosen this too be the first topic just to broaden your understanding, so you will get the most out of my future posts.

 Covered in this post is 3 main subjects.

• Environment
• Identity
• Mindset
  

Environment

 

What effect do the environment have on you?

The friends and family you surround yourself with do most often have the biggest impact on your life and how much success you will have in terms of money, Job, relationships, happiness etc. Like you can’t expect to be very happy if the people you surround your self with are very negative all the time.

So chose very carefully what kind of people you let influence you. That might not be your family or your current friends. That don’t mean that you should leave your family and so on, but rather that you chose other people to be part of your circle of influence and chose not to be influenced by negative people. Always make sure to seek out the right people for your interest and purpose. It will make a huge difference!

You might also be influenced by your country, culture or religion. It is your job to seek out what’s good and serves you and what you want to remove from your identity. F.ex lets say you grew up in a town where there was alot of dangerous people on the street. A good rule would be not to talk with strangers. Well, lets say you want to start your own company. Do you think it is a good idea to still not talk with strangers? Probably not. But it is part of your identity so you might be afraid of talking to strangers. Don’t worry I will give you the tools to change limiting believes like this.

Another thing is that most people have the fear of change. This fear comes from when we used to live in tribes and change could mean being left out from your group and that could mean death. Well this is not a reasonable fear anymore, but what most likely will happen if you succeed is that people will try to get you “down on earth” back to their reality that you shared. If you keep your reality strong 2 tings can happen: you would either grow apart or the other person will start accepting your reality.

 

Identity

 

What is identity?

I have split it into 3 main arias:

• Expectations and Values
• Believes
• Habits

Expectations and Values

What are the expectations you have in you life? Your friends? Your family?
Can you define what kind of person a friend is? How would a person act to be able to be your girlfriend or boyfriend? What are the rules?

Think about this cos whatever your rules are about you other people and what you expect. Are this matching your own values?

Are one of your values to always be there for a friend or a person you are inrelationships with?
Or do you have a rule too always get the biggest piece of the cake?

We all have different rules, expectations and values. Good or bad. Can you find any rules, values or expectations that does not serve you?

Beliefs

What you believe to be true has sort of a magical habit of becoming true for good or bad.

“Whether you think you can or can’t you are right” – Henry Ford

So if you think everyone dislikes you strong enough you are probably right. Same if you believe that everyone likes you, even if they don’t at the moment, they will.

What you believe in will actually make your subconscious mind (95 % of your brainpower) guide you in that direction even tough it might be things you don’t really want.

Do you have some bad or limiting believes?

If so don’t worry I will give the tools to change it.

Habits

Habits is whatever you do over and over again. Like washing your hands, flush your teeth, eating etc.

I think we can all agree that not all habits serve us. Like the habit of eating a little too much candy considered your own standards.

Habits are often hard to change, but with a little effort and persistence you can easily make a lifetime change.

Mindset

 

How do you see the world?
What do you believe is possible?
How will you respond when it gets hard?
Will you take action even tough you are scared or don’t want to because it serves a greater purpose?
Do you dare to take on a new path you know nothing about to be able to live your dreams?

How you think, what you think and what you are willing to do will pretty much determine your success and happiness in life!

I’m just reminding you of what you already know. It is up to you if you want to face it…

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Student of Life
Erik Tømmerås